Comments on: Stepfamily Teens Don’t Do As Well in School, Says Study http://thestepfamilylife.com/blog3/2008/05/05/stepfamily-teens-dont-do-as-well-in-school-says-study/ Stepfamily Blog by Syndicated Columnist & Stepmother Dawn Miller Thu, 04 Mar 2010 04:04:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Murray http://thestepfamilylife.com/blog3/2008/05/05/stepfamily-teens-dont-do-as-well-in-school-says-study/comment-page-1/#comment-14275 Murray Mon, 29 Dec 2008 04:43:07 +0000 http://thestepfamilylife.com/blog3/2008/05/04/stepfamily-teens-dont-do-as-well-in-school-says-study/#comment-14275 The study has something valuable to say as do the others who have posted. I am a teacher and do find that the students who struggle are all in very difficult circumstances - often involving family breakdown. In my case, my wife and I have two 18 year old boys, two 15 year old girls and my youngest, a 13 year old boy. Her two all the time and mine half the time every two weeks (two on/two off) Also one of us African, one North American. My kids are struggling right now with feeling they belong here and I may have helped create the problem. I am hopeful that we will work it out and cooler heads will prevail. All, except my oldest, are doing quite well at school. Thanks for the info. Oh... When looking for a lawyer in order to finalize my divorce, one told me that 75 % of blended families with each spouse bringing children fail. I didn't hire him. Love and hope. The study has something valuable to say as do the others who have posted. I am a teacher and do find that the students who struggle are all in very difficult circumstances – often involving family breakdown.

In my case, my wife and I have two 18 year old boys, two 15 year old girls and my youngest, a 13 year old boy. Her two all the time and mine half the time every two weeks (two on/two off) Also one of us African, one North American. My kids are struggling right now with feeling they belong here and I may have helped create the problem. I am hopeful that we will work it out and cooler heads will prevail. All, except my oldest, are doing quite well at school. Thanks for the info.

Oh… When looking for a lawyer in order to finalize my divorce, one told me that 75 % of blended families with each spouse bringing children fail. I didn’t hire him. Love and hope.

]]> By: Shannon http://thestepfamilylife.com/blog3/2008/05/05/stepfamily-teens-dont-do-as-well-in-school-says-study/comment-page-1/#comment-2351 Shannon Mon, 30 Jun 2008 16:51:41 +0000 http://thestepfamilylife.com/blog3/2008/05/04/stepfamily-teens-dont-do-as-well-in-school-says-study/#comment-2351 I'm not sure that this really means anything to me. It's very dependent on the person. The success rate of second marriages is also not that great, but I didn't let that dissuade me either. I think powerful parenting role models will be key as these children age and being aware of potential problems and pitfalls will surely help too. I’m not sure that this really means anything to me. It’s very dependent on the person. The success rate of second marriages is also not that great, but I didn’t let that dissuade me either. I think powerful parenting role models will be key as these children age and being aware of potential problems and pitfalls will surely help too.

]]> By: Kathi B http://thestepfamilylife.com/blog3/2008/05/05/stepfamily-teens-dont-do-as-well-in-school-says-study/comment-page-1/#comment-1890 Kathi B Mon, 12 May 2008 09:44:24 +0000 http://thestepfamilylife.com/blog3/2008/05/04/stepfamily-teens-dont-do-as-well-in-school-says-study/#comment-1890 Does she say anything about teens who live with a single parent and a half-sibling struggling with school? I have a friend whose child has gone from an honor roll student to a below average student and I am just curious to see if there is any research on this anywhere. If you know, I would love to see it. Thank you for posting this it was very interesting to read!! I will post more about my thoughts on it later. Does she say anything about teens who live with a single parent and a half-sibling struggling with school? I have a friend whose child has gone from an honor roll student to a below average student and I am just curious to see if there is any research on this anywhere. If you know, I would love to see it. Thank you for posting this it was very interesting to read!! I will post more about my thoughts on it later.

]]> By: Christine Tufnell http://thestepfamilylife.com/blog3/2008/05/05/stepfamily-teens-dont-do-as-well-in-school-says-study/comment-page-1/#comment-1847 Christine Tufnell Tue, 06 May 2008 09:38:45 +0000 http://thestepfamilylife.com/blog3/2008/05/04/stepfamily-teens-dont-do-as-well-in-school-says-study/#comment-1847 Hi I'm so glad that I didn't know that my children were likely to suffer educationally when I remarried. My two sons, who were 11 and 13, acquired 3 teenage stepbrothers. 4 of the boys lived with us. However both my sons have graduated with degrees, so I don't think that their stepsiblings had a negative effect on them. Had we stayed as a single parent family, they would have had less of my time and attention as I would have had to work fulltime. They also had the benefit of a caring stepfather. I think it is difficult to make judgements from this type of study as there are many other issues to take into account. Hi
I’m so glad that I didn’t know that my children were likely to suffer educationally when I remarried. My two sons, who were 11 and 13, acquired 3 teenage stepbrothers. 4 of the boys lived with us. However both my sons have graduated with degrees, so I don’t think that their stepsiblings had a negative effect on them. Had we stayed as a single parent family, they would have had less of my time and attention as I would have had to work fulltime. They also had the benefit of a caring stepfather.

I think it is difficult to make judgements from this type of study as there are many other issues to take into account.

]]> By: Mister-M http://thestepfamilylife.com/blog3/2008/05/05/stepfamily-teens-dont-do-as-well-in-school-says-study/comment-page-1/#comment-1843 Mister-M Mon, 05 May 2008 15:25:44 +0000 http://thestepfamilylife.com/blog3/2008/05/04/stepfamily-teens-dont-do-as-well-in-school-says-study/#comment-1843 I have no idea about the study. Further, I've seen enough studies that have had bizarre conclusions that I often feel I need to look much more deeply to make draw my own conclusion. DW and I each have 2 from our prior marriages. The ages? 7, 8,9, and 9. With a few exceptions, they get along great. They have their moments, but nothing that we feel is unexpected for the age range. Time, distance, and circumstances differ between the two of us and we have had varying degrees of custody with all of them together, from a "100%" summer last year, to every other week, to every other weekend, you name it. It warms my heart that when they are apart for a period of time (sometimes it's several weeks) - both sides just want to know when they're going to see the other again. For the record, all 4 are doing excellent in school, despite our crazy schedules and varying degrees of interaction. I have no idea about the study. Further, I’ve seen enough studies that have had bizarre conclusions that I often feel I need to look much more deeply to make draw my own conclusion.

DW and I each have 2 from our prior marriages. The ages? 7, 8,9, and 9. With a few exceptions, they get along great. They have their moments, but nothing that we feel is unexpected for the age range.

Time, distance, and circumstances differ between the two of us and we have had varying degrees of custody with all of them together, from a “100%” summer last year, to every other week, to every other weekend, you name it.

It warms my heart that when they are apart for a period of time (sometimes it’s several weeks) – both sides just want to know when they’re going to see the other again.

For the record, all 4 are doing excellent in school, despite our crazy schedules and varying degrees of interaction.

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