05.23.07

Stepfamily Finances: The Giant Stressor

Posted in Dawn's Life, Dawn's Writing at 1:01 pm by Dawn Miller

My new column talks about stepfamily finances, and I’ve already started receiving email about it. This is a hot-button issue for many stepfamilies, who often find themselves financially linked to an ex-spouse, and facing money challenges.

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E. said,

May 24, 2007 at 10:07 pm

You touched on a very good topic that we are experiencing and have
been going through. Again I am the stepmom. My husband and I are
primarily responsible financially for his kids.

Their mother honestly does not contribute to their growing expenses, she has been very unstable and when she does come across some money, her kids are the last to see any of it. They see it for themselves because they
are always saying “well mom won’t get it for us because she never
has money.” But in turn, they ALWAYS expect us to get it for them no matter what. That’s sometimes an ongoing thing, however, it’s gotten better.

However on the very bad and ugly side of stepfamily finances, my
husband is stuck in a messy situation with his ex regarding a car.
Like in your article, they both purchased a car. She wanted it and
on court papers she was listed as the primary person responsible for
it. And of course, she is seriously late on her payments. My
husband is getting calls and when he tries to talk to her about
refinancing it, she gives us the run around that she is trying and
still no results. He has even taken her to court and she has been
ordered to make payments and show confirmation within 5days and she
still has not improved.

It stresses me out because I do worry about his credit score, it is not getting better. We are at a point where we don’t know what to do anymore besides just take the car from her and make payments ourselves. Then again, I see it as she’s getting away with so much, she’s not being a responisble individual or parent. Thanks for bringing up issues that let me know I am not the only one going through them.

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